Q. 1. If one parent has his/her child secretly baptised, against the wish of the other parent, does such action invalidate the Sacrament of Baptism? After all, since both parents are equally responsible for the upbringing of their child, does it not take the permission of both parents regarding major events in the life of the child? Such is the case when deciding if the child will attend a public or Catholic school, what religion the child will be raised in or even when deciding the type of sports activities that the child should be involved in.
A. 1. For the administration of the Sacrament of Baptism to be valid, three conditions must be met. They are:
1.1 The person administering the Sacrament must have had the intention of baptising her child.
1.2 The person administering the Sacrament had to use the correct formula, the exact words that are required to make the baptism valid.
1.3 The person administering the Sacrament must sprinkle water on the forehead of the infant.
If the proper matter and form was used and the the person administering the Sacrament really intended to perform what the Church performs, the Sacrament of Baptism is considered valid without any doubt whatsoever. It does not matter if the Sacrament of Baptism was administered in the Church, in the Hospital or in the home. If the above conditions are met, the Sacrament is valid.