Q. 1. My husband has decided to leave me after ten years of marriage. What should I do?
A. 1. I am sorry to hear of the hardship that has just struck your Sacramental marriage. I cannot begin to imagine how much you are suffering as a result of this imminent breakup. I reach out to both of you with my prayers in the hope that this separation will be a temporary one.
In the meantime, you must realize that you are not alone. Every year, there are thousands of couples who experience an identical trial. In some case, the separation is temporary. In other cases, it is permanent, some of them leading to a legal divorce. As sad as it is to say, you must prepare yourself for the worst.
You must realize that under the present circumstances, you are a victim of the event, not a party to it. While being separated, both of you are called to abstain from sexual relationships. Being separated does not free one from the bound of marriage. "Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." [Mt. 19:6]
I encourage you to pray more than ever for the grace of God to touch the heart of your husband that he may come back to you so your Sacrament marriage may be preserved. Ask others to join you in your prayers. And be assured of mine on a daily basis.